Sunday, February 3, 2013

How to Improve Your Child's Self-Esteem

1. Teach the value of mistakes.
When your child makes a mistake help him or her understand that mistakes are helpful for learning.  Do not bring up past mistakes as a way to humiliate or punish them.

2. Point out specific behaviors or actions that your child does well.
Children especially do not see on their own what they are good at. An adult, especially their parent, is the most powerful tool in helping children see their strengths. Remember do not say, "Good job." but rather, "You colored in the lines very nice.".

3. Do not do everything for your child.
You might feel like you are loving parent for doing every little thing for your child. Unfortunately, truth be told, this sends the message that your child is not capable of doing it themselves. They hear this message loud and clear.

4. When you see a strength give your child more opportunities to use it.
If your child is good at sports, put them in sport. If they are caring call on them when a child is sad.  Take advantage of utilizing a child's strength. Nothing boost a child's self esteem more than if an adult needs their help!

5. Quality time sends a powerful message.
Simply spending quality time with your child sends a very powerful message that they are lovable, and worthy of another person's time. This is no small task. Children will carry this message into adulthood- good or bad.

Children's self-esteem can be very fragile but it is something to take very seriously. How we view ourselves shapes our ambition,  spouse choice, and future success. If we think we are an incapable loser, why would we try for things outside of that category? Many people break up with significant others because they feel like they are not "good enough" for them. Prevent this kind of future for your child. Parents have the most influence over this, but start young! It is easier to build  on a solid foundation than to try and build on a rocky one.

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