Sunday, October 21, 2012

How to Not be Manipulated



  1. Identify where your boundaries are and stick to them.
    • If you know where your boundaries are and stick to them you will have a much stronger stance against a manipulator. If you do not know where you stand, you are much more likely to be manipulated.
  2. Decide who you are.
    • Manipulators will often tell you are a bad person if you don’t do x,y or z. Do not allow another person to define you. Decide for yourself what makes you a good or a bad person.
  3. Have thick skin.
    • Once you have identified that someone is a manipulator do not allow yourself to take anything they say to heart. View their words through a lens that tells you their words are meant to hurt not help, and then disregard them.
  4. Get them out of your life.
    • If you have a manipulator in your life, they are toxic to your mental health. Getting them out of your life can be the best thing you do for yourself to fight anxiety, depression and low self-esteem.
  5. Find Support.
    • Find someone who is healthy and supportive to bounce ideas off of. Sometimes we get sucked into a manipulator’s web, but if we have a friend that can help pull us out, we do not get trapped. This can also help us see the lies more clearly.
  6. Don’t let them intimidate you.
    • If they make threats do what you need to block them. Get the police involved if you have to. Threats are a major way manipulators control. To be truly free from a manipulator, you cannot let them have power with their threats. 

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