1. Believe in your heart and soul that you can change.
There is not a behavior under the sun that cannot be changed. Some are much harder to change than others but our minds are powerful and if we are determined enough, with the right tools we can change!!
2. Specifically identify the behavior.
You have to know what the behavior is if you want to change it. If you want to stop treating your spouse bad, you have to know what you are doing that is “bad”.
3. Commit whole heartedly to do whatever it takes to end the habit.
This is not something you can do half-assed (excuse the expression). Either commit to it or don’t bother trying. Changing habits is hard work but is worth it if you are replacing them with healthier alternatives. If something isn’t working to change your habit, try something new.
4. Find someone who can hold you accountable.
Having someone to talk to about your new behavior gives you the extra boost of motivation to push through when you are feeling weak. Knowing in the back of your mind that so and so is going to ask you how you are doing often keeps people on track. These people can also encourage us when we are feeling like giving up or feeling like the progress is too slow.
5. Find an alternative to your behavior that you want to change.
If you do not replace your behavior with something else it will either be very hard to change or something not of your conscious choosing will take it’s place. You must be intentional about this.
6. Put up reminders around your house or on your body to help you stay on track.
Whether you are putting signs up or tying a string around your finger, any reminder helps. When we get into the swing of life it is easy to forget what we are working on. The reminders help to bring it to the front of your mind.
7. Practice Practice Practice
Do not be discouraged if you make mistakes or if your progress is not as fast as you would like it to be. Some habits have lasted for years. You cannot expect them to go away in a day. It takes a lot of practice and determination to change a behavior. You don’t have to be a slave to your habits. Practice, practice, practice and you can be free.
Some habits are extremely difficult to change. A counselor may be needed to get over certain habits. Don’t let needing help be an obstacle for you. Remember you do not have to be a slave to your habits if you are determined enough.