Trust is so vital to healthy relationships but so many marriages go on without it. This will choke out a healthy and happy relationship. One thing to understand about trust is that it is not an emotion; rather it is something that develops because of behavior patterns.
- 1. Be honest and open. Allow your spouse to read your e-mails, texts or facebook messages. If you are doing something you don’t want your spouse to know about, you probably shouldn't do it. Knowing your spouse might randomly check in on your accounts creates accountability to keep you in doing what is needed.
- 2. Talk with your spouse about what boundaries you need to feel comfortable. My husband and I have a no alone time with the opposite sex policy.
- 3. Volunteer information about yourself, your day and the people you are with. If your spouse feels like they have to pull information out of you, it will be natural for them to feel like you are hiding something.
- 4. Say what you do, and do what you say. If every time your spouse checks up on you or hears about you from another person, and it lines up with your story, you will give them no reason to doubt you.
- 5. When your spouse is being vulnerable, support them. Being judgmental or rude does not facilitate a loving, and safe relationship.
- 6. NEVER LIE TO YOUR SPOUSE. Just never never never never do it.
Trust is what holds couple together and is what gets them through hard times. Trust facilitates that feeling of love and intimacy. The fruits of trust in a marriage will bring security to the whole home.