Sunday, March 11, 2012

How to be a Good Listener






Being a good listener is important for friendships and it is very helpful for people who are hurting. Many times people ask me how they can help their friends and the number one answer is just to be a good listener. Simply letting your friends talk can help them heal from their pain and feel more equipped to face the day. The world needs more good listeners!!



Stop talking and be quiet
Do not interrupt
Ask questions about what they are saying like:
What happened next?
What do you think you are going to do?
Use encouraging words like:
Let’s talk more
Tell me more about it
Mmm Hmm
Uh huh
I see
Right
Show you are listening with your body by:
Facing the person
Looking in their eyes
Not doing other things
Nodding your head as they talk
Avoid saying things like:
Are you sure?
That’s not that bad
Toughen up
You’ll get over it
Also avoid:
Being judgmental
Thinking of how you are going to respond when they are talking
Changing the subject




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