
So today I was with my counselor, yes counselors see
counselors, and she was encouraging me to do “stuff” to better my situation. In
the moment I was annoyed and a bit frustrated because I didn’t want to have to
change to better my situation. I just want her to say magical words and for me
to feel better about my situation. I would tell her how
I felt and then I wouldn’t be scared about my dad’s increasing health problems, or whatever the
next problem on my list was. Being a counselor, having similar conversations with
my clients, this shouldn’t have been a surprise to me, but it was. I needed to
realize the parts of my life that I actually did have control over and then
make a plan to change it.
As people, we often fall into this rut. We become victim of
our circumstances and forget that we actually can do something to better the situation. In my case I just needed to have
a conversation and make a plan about how we would handle if my fear, that I had
no control over, happened. That simple piece melted a lot of my worries. Sometimes
it’s as simple as a conversation, other times it means making a life change.
Maybe your drinking problem is tearing your family apart, or maybe how you
spend money is leading you to financial ruin.
A bad situation is rarely the end of the road. How we
respond to it determines how bad it actually is. There are many small ways we
can improve our lives if we look for them. So this message is really to me. Get
off the couch and do something about what is bothering you.
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